A death like this leaves us speechless and full of questions. Why did this have to happen to him? Why did this have to happen to us now? Why didn’t I make a point to spend more time with him while he was still here? What happened? Why did God leave his little boys without a dad?
Each of us individually and in our most private moments has to process the loss. As difficult as it is to accept his young death, we must take a step back from our pain and be thankful that he did not suffer. We should consider the possibility that his Soul is immortal and he has peacefully gone on to the next part of his journey.
According to Kundalini Yoga and many other ways of understanding the world, the soul decides even before we are born when and how we will die. We are born to live for a while in this time and space - to learn, to love, to be - and then when the time comes, we leave. Those of us left behind are thrown into deep pain and regret.
To help ourselves and that person's soul have a smooth transition, there is a spiritual practice in Kundalini Yoga that assuages our pain and encourages the soul making the journey home. We sing the word Akal, which means undying and deathless.
We sing Akal three times and then begin again 3 times for a total of 31 minutes a day for 3-17 days after the person has passed. It is a humbling chant that reminds us that we are all energy and are all immortal and have come to this time and space to experience love and to give love and to feel pain and to learn from pain. If we can accept this, we can accept the death or transition of that loved one who has left us behind.
In many accounts of near-death experiences, we hear of the person temporarily travelling to a place where they energetically come in contact with those that have gone before. Modern science has defined energy as that which can be neither created nor destroyed. Quantum science tells us we are all energy and therefore we go on in some energetic form forever.
So I can be calm now when I think of my loss and I live in the hope that when my time comes and I am going home that I will meet Joe and all my loved ones who have gone before me and that I will feel their presence of love encircle me in the biggest and best hug ever!